Moving On??

Sa isang relationship, mahirap umasa kaagad na kayo na nga. Kahit taon na ang lumipas at kayo parin, hindi mo parin masasabi na sa huli ay magwawagi ang pag-ibig nyo sa isat-isa laban sa mga pagsubok na pinagdaraanan nyo.

Laging sinasabi na sa isang relationship, dapat matutunan ng bawat-isa na tanggapin ang lahat ng bagay na hindi na maaaring mabago ng kanilang partner or tanggapin mo siya kung sino siya. Tama iyon. Acceptance is a very important part of a healthy relationship pero para sa ikalalago lalo ng relationship ninyo, dapat naroon din ang willingness ng bawat isa na magbago para sa taong kanilang minamahal. Magbago para sa ikabubuti siyempre.

Maraming nagsasabi na "tinanggap ko siya sa kung ano siya" pero ang totoo, ang pagtanggap at pagbabago ay isang prosesong walang katapusan dahil ang pagbabago ng isang tao ay patuloy din. Maaaring ang takbo ng isipan ng partner mo ngayon ay mag iba pagkalipas ng isa o dalawang taon. Magbabago ang kanilang mga priorities at maaaring magresulta sa pagpili ng iba ang kanilang pagmamature.

Sa isang relationship, dapat kapakanan ng bawat isa ang iniisip ng parehong indibidwal. Paminsan kumakarga ang isa ng higit na mabigat na klase ng responsibilidad kesa sa kanyang partner, it ay dahil sa kaya niyang mag sakripisyo at magparaya alang alang sa taong kaniyang minamahal.

Kailangan nating magtiwala sa taong makakasama natin sa buhay, pakinggan ang kaniyang opinyon at timbanging mabuti ang mga posibilidad. Ang mga desisyon ay dapat na pnag-uusapan ng mahusay. Hindi rin naman dapat iisa lang ang nagsusumikap na makipag usap. Dapat pareho kayong may effort na iresolba ang inyong conflicts. Kapag iisa lamang ang gumagawa at nagsisikap, hindi magtatagal at susuko din ang isang iyon at bibitiw.

Mas malakas ang magiging pundasyon ng relationship ninyo kapag pareho kayong kakapit ng mahigpit at magtutulungan sa mga bagay na nais ninyong abutin. Kapag wala ang ganitong klase ng suporta at pag-intindi, gayun din ang pantay na effort na manatiling iisa, mahirap manatiling buo ang inyong relasyon.

Mahirap mag move on at mahirap malaman kung kailan, kaya ipinapayo ko na bigyan mo ito ng kaunting panahon. Bigyan mo ng pagkakataon na makita mo rin sa iyong sarili kung tama nga ang desisyon mong mag move on nalang kesa sa makipag balikan.

Ang totoo, nakapapagod din kung ikaw nalang ng ikaw ang magpapakumbaba at babalik. Kung wala sa isa ang ganitong klase ng pakiramdam, mabuti pang pakawalan mo na lamang siya dahil kung hindi ka naman niya pipigilan, malamang sa hindi na hindi nya deserve ang pag-ibig na kaya mong ibigay sa kaniya.

AFRAID OF CHANGE?

A lot of people are scared to try new things. Basically, they are afraid to get out of their comfort zone. They are afraid to change what they are used to because they are afraid that it would only result to something worse.

If everybody had this type of mindset, nobody would enjoy the type of technology we have now. We are created to change and adapt to change. We need to be able to realize that change could either kill you or make you better and the choice is actually yours to make. The world evolves day after day. It evolves into something that may be a little bit scary but if we learn how to live with it much better if we learn how to benefit from it, we'll be more than survivors.

In the book "Who moved my cheese?" The tiny humans got used to having their cheese in a certain corner of the maze that when the cheese was moved somewhere else, it resulted to panic. This is much like people getting used to how their life works today. Many are trapped in regular paying jobs, afraid to go out there without a retirement plan and medical benefits. Afraid to not rely on their employers. Afraid of independence.

I see things differently. I will never be somebody or the person that I would like to become unless I act on it. God gave me the ability to understand that change is good and I can adapt to it. Robert Kiyosaki's rich dad was right when he said that it makes no sense to work for something that you will not eventually own or leave to your kids.

Every person is a massive source of resource and our ability to make things happen and to process things aren't really given to benefit other people. Your skills and capabilities are being taken advantage of by people who pay you to be your employer. Those people are the smart players. You don't even know them but you work for them. They let their money work for them and they don't let money or anyone enslave them. They are free and they are independent.

Yes yes, you might say that you know that already. Hey, the road there is never easy. Remember the parable in the Bible where the master left his slaves coins? The one that was rewarded was the one who invested it into something and doubled it before his master came back. The one who kept it and let it remain as it is did not get any recognition as well. Our mindset should be like that. We should not be afraid of risks or losing. We should not be afraid to try new things and we should never be afraid to get out of our comfort zone.

You will notice that whenever you get out of your comfort zone and try new things, that new thing will eventually become comfortable enough for you to move to another new thing. Unless you go out there and expose yourself to the risks of life, you'll never know what it's like to lose. Yes, you'll never know what it's like to lose and with this very same note, you'll never know what it's like to really WIN as well.

So get yourself out there! Step forward and widen your space. Do not be afraid to fail because every failure brings you so much closer to success. Getting rich is not a one shot deal, it's your drive to get there that will get you there. There is no such thing as giving up with people that has their goals clearly set in their minds. Let's move towards it one step at a time.

GOD BLESS!

TO SUCCESS!!
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